Timing can be very important when considering a separation. Divorce is not a pleasant experience, so it is often something that people will put off from addressing, repeatedly finding reasons to delay starting the formal process.


For some people timing when to divorce is key to balancing other aspects of their life such as their work or business commitments, finances, family events and their children. Divorce is not a decision that is taken lightly or made overnight. Often people need to consider divorce for some time, mulling it over in their mind before knowing their final intentions. Whether it is waiting until after a big work presentation or putting it off until your child finishes their GSCEs – there is often an ever-moving barrier.


There are a number of barriers that may put a halt to unhappy couples divorcing. Particularly at the moment as we navigate unprecedented times.


Covid-19 Pandemic


Whilst the pressures of the pandemic and lockdown have caused strained relationships to show their cracks, the uncertainty of the future can make people more cautious about making big decisions. Some have concerns over their financial security or the property market and are riding the wave until things look more certain.


We are hopeful that given the rate of vaccinations in the UK and the decreasing death rates, that we may be able to enjoy the Spring and Summer months with more freedom and that the economy may start to pick up once again.


If the pandemic is making you cautious of leaving the security of a marriage, then you may wish to seek some initial legal advice via a video or telephone appointment to arm yourself with information, ready for when the time is right for you to leave. Please see our article ’10 Things You Can Do To Prepare For Divorce’ to give yourself a head start.


Children & Divorce


For families who are separating, the emotions of their children are their ultimate priority. Often couples will wait for the right moment so as not to cause too much change or impact their children. The trouble with this, is that there is never a good time to tell your children about separation and couples end up living together unhappily until their children fly the nest. Even adult children can take the news of divorce badly or cause further family disputes.


Supporting your children through divorce is key, rather than putting off making the right decision for you. Two happy homes are often healthier for impressionable children than one unhappy one.


Our article, ’10 Golden Rules For Protecting Your Children During Your Separation’ shares some practical tips for helping them manage their emotions, knowing what to expect and some ideas on how to break the news.


Finances & Property


Money can be a motivator for most things in life. Whether you are concerned about affording legal advice or anxious about your financial position after divorce, speaking to a Solicitor can help you gain some understanding.   At Lamb Brooks we can offer initial meetings with one of our Family Solicitors for a fixed fee at a price suited to your budget, ensuring that you get the advice you need right at the beginning and provide you with a strategy as to how you move forward.


For some, the current restrictions may give cause for concern that they will have no where to go if they divorce during the pandemic. The good news here is that the property market is still open and moving. It is possible to view properties to rent or to buy under current government guidance. Mortgage companies are still lending, solicitors and estate agents are operating as usually as they can. It is worth remembering as well, that single people or households can form a support bubble. So, moving in with a friend or relative is possible if it helps to escape a difficult relationship whilst you go through a separation.


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Managing Your Exit


Each relationship is different. Some people will know when the time is right for them to leave their marriage and are able to make a swift exit. Others will need more time for their thoughts to cement their decision and will find it easier to break away slowly from the relationship.


There is no right or wrong way to end your marriage, but there are some ways you can ensure all your ‘ducks are in a row’ so that when that lightbulb moment occurs you are prepared and have a sense of control over the situation.


Initial Divorce Advice


If divorce is playing on your mind or you wish to prepare yourself to leave your spouse later in the year, please get in touch with our specialist Family Solicitors today who can help you formulate a plan.


Whilst you might not be quite ready to file for divorce – knowing your position, understanding your rights and putting your finances in order is a good place to start to set you off on the right foot.


Call our office on 01256 844888, email enquiries@lambbrooks.com or speak to our online chat assistant (who is a real person). We understand the need for discretion at this moment in time. With children off school and many working from home under one roof, our divorce lawyers have had more creative conversations with clients than ever before! Let us know if you would like to schedule a call at a time to suit you or would like some information over email to start things off.


Other Articles You May Be Interested in Reading:

10 Things To Do To Prepare For Divorce

Talking To Your Teenager About Divorce

Early Divorce Advice & What To Expect


The contents of this article are for the purposes of general awareness only. They do not purport to constitute legal or professional advice.  The law may have changed since this article was published.   Readers should not act on the basis of the information included and should take appropriate professional advice upon their own particular circumstances.